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  • givesomefucks@lemmy.worldtoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldThe problem of Susan
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    8 hours ago

    Great.

    Why do you think I said he was?

    Genuinely asking because for some reason when I said he was likely against the law like most religious people were, that meant he personally wanted a bride under 16

    And I legitimately would like to know why, even after I explicitly said this:

    You’ve also twisted that into me labeling him a pedo that wants to marry a child younger than 16 and implied everyone agreed that this law was a good thing. One thing you’ve just invented and another that’s easily disproven

    What about that did you read and think I meant Lewis wanted to marry a child?





  • She asked me twice whether I thought her stories sounded crazy, so she was clearly somewhat aware of her condition.

    Not necessarily.

    It’s very likely everyone in her life were telling her it’s all in her head, she gets mad and says she’s not crazy…

    Then calls random repair people, tells them the story. And asks “am I crazy” because most businesses would never say that to a client. She was looking for validation, the same way people go fishing for compliments saying stuff like “I’m so bad at my job, I don’t know how you all put up with me”. Even if it’s true and they’re dead weight, most people will be polite and reassure them.

    I just didn’t know how to deal with someone like that

    Tell them that they should relay their concerns to a medical professional if they’re concerned.

    If they’re seriously doubting their delusions, they’ll go get help and thank you for the advice.

    More likely they’ll realize you’re not giving them what they want, get mad, and often blame you for being involved in the conspiracy.

    But there’s a chance they actually get help.

    Any kind of acceptance of their beliefs, no matter how tentative, reinforces it and drives them further into the delusion. Depending on how involved her family is, she might have called them immediately, and after cussing them out said even the plumber agrees she’s not crazy.


  • They probably thought you meant something different than what you actually meant.

    You think they do an annual review of threads?

    It was over a year ago I made the comment, they banned me for it five days ago.

    I don’t know man, it’s weird you’re not getting that, but it doesn’t really matter.

    I’m sorry if I’m explaining it poorly.

    I did remember it wasn’t I blocked a mod, I explained why I might not respond. And apparently they didn’t like that I had blocked their instance


  • Weird, maybe because I looked at world’s modlog and not theirs like you seem to have done.

    I clicked on the link, it was a comment from literally a year ago lol.

    https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/3159844

    I blocked the mod of that sub about a week ago, so they likely went and saw my last comment there and banned me for it.

    Like I said tho, I’m perfectly fine with it. I blocked their whole instance a long time ago, I think it might have actually been that thread that clued me in it wasn’t worth ever going there again.

    Thanks for finding that tho! I’ll remember to check an instance’s own modlog in the future for more details.

    Quick edit:

    (which your agreement to could be seen as agreement with trans-segrigation in sports).

    Nah, I was explaining how the only way to get better at chess is to play better people, and there’s no reason for any classes based around gender. And the explanation for difference in skill, is simply that the best men refused to play women, so they never improved. The first female grand master was only that good because her dad was crazy good and made her and her sister play him constantly.

    You need the experience of high level play to be able to play at a high level, and any gender divide in division just prolongs that. So I was arguing against any segregation at all.

    That’s why they let it stay up a year until I blocked the mod of that community.

    And suddenly it was transphobic.



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    He was having an affair with a woman almost 30 years older than himself, and she died in 1951

    And surely a wealthy Christian man in England 70 years ago would never be hypocritical…

    But like I said, maybe it’s a coincidence and not an intended statement. But the books are incredibly preachy and Lewis writes as if his personal beliefs are clearly and obviously the right and only beliefs.

    It’s been decades since I’ve read them, but I’m not the only one with that takeaway from his writings.

    And while a child being married under 16 immediately sounds like pedophilia to you (as it should) this was back when the law was being passed and lots opposed it. There were people fighting it for decades after even.

    And it literally explains why Susan was held to a different standard than Pete:

    This section re-enacts section 1 of the Age of Marriage Act 1929 which set the minimum marriage age at 16 with consent of parents or guardians and 21 (since lowered to 18) without that consent. Marriages contracted by persons either of whom is under the age of 16 years are void.[10][11] Before 1929, the common law and canon law applied so that a person who had attained the legal age of puberty could contract a valid marriage. A marriage contracted by persons either of whom was under the legal age of puberty was voidable. The legal age of puberty was 14 for males and 12 for females.

    In 1971, Eekelaar wrote that the prohibition now contained in this section “though desirable, is extreme and inflexible.” According to him it could result in “genuine hardship”, such as where it is discovered, after years of apparent marriage, that a mistake was made, at the time of the ceremony, regarding the age of one of the spouses, or where one of the spouses concealed their real age, though, after 1971, some protection was afforded by section 6 of the Law Reform (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 1970[12] (now repealed and replaced by the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act 1975).

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_Act_1949

    So while you think I’m making an assumption in saying his opposition to this law was likely and may have influenced what he wrote about…

    You’ve also twisted that into me labeling him a pedo that wants to marry a child younger than 16 and implied everyone agreed that this law was a good thing. One thing you’ve just invented and another that’s easily disproven


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    I mean, it was written by a Christian and the first book was published 1950.

    The 1949 law was passed in the UK barring marriage under 16, and went into effect 1/1/50.

    Knowing Lewis the entire reason for the “Susan problem” was him likely being upset child marriage had been (slightly more) outlawed.

    So Susan turned 16 and Lewis made a big deal about a sudden change and now she’s an adult.

    Granted, I could very well be wrong.

    But it seems like somebody upset about progress, and I wouldn’t be the first to label Lewis as such. But it’s hard for anyone to claim he wasn’t using his writing to shoehorn his opinions in and get kids to agree with him.


  • Nah, I replied to OP and they deleted the comment.

    Maybe that looks weird on some federated instances or apps tho.

    If it looks like I’m replying to someone else, that would explain the down votes.

    OPs post gets reposted pretty frequently, always by new accounts which tend to disappear a day or two later after some lazy posts.

    I really do think it’s the same person who’s bans are in the screenshots.

    It’s too random that a bunch of brand new accounts all find the post and quote it with perfectly formatting including all the pictures just to repost it the same place they found it.

    Especially since the new account always claims they’re “helping new users” like they’ve been here forever.



  • On the other hand, I’ve blocked both those instances months ago and it’s been great.

    Strangely I did notice I got banned from a blahaj community like a week ago despite not commenting there for at least 6 months, maybe ever?

    Which is kind of the whole point of me blocking them

    Both have mods/admins that are very very opinionated about things. And they tend to refuse to let things go (much like OP or you making that sub)

    So if they see something they dont agree with, they’ll pre-emptively ban an account, because, and this is doubly important right here:

    It’s trolls feeding trolls drama in a big loop

    You making that sub, OP making this post…

    All you’re doing is encouraging them

    Can you really not understand?

    I’ll try and remember to come back and check if you respond, but I don’t get notifications from instances I’ve blocked.

    Edit:

    I was banned five days ago apparently for this comment from a year ago:

    https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/3159844

    Definitely not because I blocked that mod five days ago and they desperately found a way to “get back”.

    Great example of my point tho, silly instances like that there’s no point in fighting them, just block their instance and go about your life.





  • Yeah, a little suspect OP’s account is a week old with barely double digit posts/comments if you combine them and most are from this post…

    I’m guessing their favorite (of many) accounts got blocked by .ml, so now they don’t want anyone going there.

    I don’t get the .ml drama tho, never have. I realized it was a silly place long ago, so I blocked the whole instance.

    I did the same for a couple others. It takes like two seconds.

    Who cares if it has bigger communities than others? If that’s all I cared about I’d still be on Reddit

    I think a lot or people (like OP) can’t drop this mindset because they’re not on the fediverse willinging. It’s probably the only social media site where IP bans aren’t a thing. So people IP banned from the big ones, are gonna trickle down here and do dumb drama hunting shit like OP.