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  • bighi@lemmy.worldto195@lemmy.worldrule
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    It’s not possible to separate the individual from the collective

    Maybe you have a hard time having your opinion.

    But it’s not fair to pin that on everywhere else in the world just because it’s like that for you. Lots of people have their own opinions, their own identities.

    Just like, for example… EVERY SINGLE TRANS PEOPLE IN THE WORLD. They have a majority of the collective saying they’re of the genre they don’t identify with at all, and they have their own individual opinion separate from the collective anyway.

    So you either:

    a) have an extreme case of social anxiety and can’t muster the courage to have an opinion that differs from the collective, and thinks everyone else in the world is like you (having a hard time understanding that different people have different opinions is also a psychological problem that is not rare).

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    b) your prejudice/homophobia/genderphobia is leaking.


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    Yes, genders are tentatively assigned at birth because most languages are based on gendered pronouns and gendered words. So we need a gender to refer to this new person, and we can’t ask babies for their input.

    But that’s not different than a father saying his baby will like sports. Or, in my case, saying your baby will grow up to play Magic The Gathering with you.

    Because when they’re old enough to decide for themselves, they can change whatever temporary labels you attached to them. And they can say they don’t like Magic. Gender. I meant gender.


  • bighi@lemmy.worldto195@lemmy.worldrule
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    And if person A refuses to accept person B for who they are, that doesn’t define person B. It defines person A as an asshole.

    Agree. And that sentence is not only valid for gender, it’s for any other cultural label (like genders are).

    If I say that I’m a gamer, or a fan of star wars, or whatever, and you’re spending your energy trying to convince the world I’m not what I said… it says much more about you than about me.


  • bighi@lemmy.worldto195@lemmy.worldrule
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    Gender isn’t assigned by the individual. Gender is assigned by parents, doctors, the community, and society broadly. Gender is an inherently social construction.

    Social/cultural construction doesn’t mean that it has to be a collective construction.

    Your gender is not different from something like… being a nerd, or being a fan of star wars. Someone might call you a nerd, but ultimately it’s up to you to embrace that label or not.

    And anyway, cultural things like gender, being a nerd, etc is absolutely unrelated to biology.