• brbposting@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    Based on the guy’s body language, feels like a recreation of this:

    Which was apparently a woman getting help with a divorce or something (IIRC)

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      This may be phase 1 of the break up. Just grind the dude down before they let him know they’re gone, so he knows exactly why they’re done.

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      I agree, why don’t he broke up before being an asshole? Than why she had the trouble to print and confront instead of breaking up? And why is HE listening to ir? why don’t just break up with a girl he is not into anymore and it’s harassing him?!

      See I agree that she is being extra and crazy but this culture that man can be assholes and apologize without breaking up is also shitty. “sHe iS cRaZy”

      Break up with your SOs guys! You don’t have to go through this and don’t have to disrespect her, just break up and you can have any pussy you want!

      • AWildMimicAppears@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        i would say fear of being alone

        letting go of something before you have grip on something new can be scary, esp if you know that the “new one” is just not girlfriend material, but you are selfish enough just to get your dick wet

        but i would say, if it’s too scary don’t jeopardize your existing relationship

        i would know, i left my girlfriend for my now wife of 12 years - but i was honest, confessed that i fell in love with another woman and moved out the same day to keep it as painless as possible for her, didnt want to drag it out, and didn’t want to play her, she meant something for me once. Still felt sorry for her, but i couldn’t lessen the blow anymore than that :-(

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        Pretty sure the motivation here is more along the lines of “double tap so they don’t get up.”

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    6 months ago

    Will no one spare a thought for that poor, poor inkjet?

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    6 months ago

    Are we not going to talk about the celebratory cupcake she has for herself when she finally dumps his cheating ass?

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    Honest question, why would either person sit through this? I understand that (it looks like) the guy’s been cheating on the girl, but he does know he can just stand up and walk away, right? Like, man, just leave her and sleep around for a bit if that’s what you want to do.

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        This movie was so perfect.

        I maintain that if people watch T1, and then a few of the more “ok” sequels, they will think the series is pretty neat sci-fi. But if someone watches T2, the rest of the series looks like ass.

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        6 months ago

        Reddit-type response and how? I’ve been in similar situations to homeboy here. You literally just have to walk away lol

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          So there’s this thing called nuance and emotion you may have heard of, yeah they both could just walk away, but they’re not going to because they aren’t total sociopaths who can just disengage from a significant person in their lives at will, cheating going on or not. We humans call this… Feelings.

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            “Feelings”. Dude in the pic is a cheater. He clearly has no regard for anyone’s feelings but his own.

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              Not excusing the cheating because it’s a shitty thing to do, but humans are very complex and you don’t know what he feels towards her. He could genuinely love her but due to emotional problems on his end he cheats (fear of attachment for example)

              Again not excusing his behavior but things were never as simple as you’re making it out to be.

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          Lol wait so, you’ve also cheated on women and when confronted you just stand up and walk out?

          You sound like a dick, bro.

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            I got my first girlfriend in highschool when I was 14 and she was 18. She was emotionally and sexually abusive to me and responded to every attempt for me to break up with her by threatening suicide and self harm. She would usually send me pictures and videos of her cutting herself whenever I did anything to upset her. I would do things differently now, but about three years into that relationship I started talking to a boy who showed me what an actual healthy relationship is supposed to be like and I’m not very ashamed to say that what I did would be considered cheating, but I was a borderline groomed, socially awkward autistic boy whose only relationship experience had been based blackmail and abuse against me.

            When I did eventually make the move to break up with her and admit what I’d done, she tried doing almost exactly what the girl in the picture is doing to the guy and sit down with me and proceed to verbally berate me (I don’t think I’ve been called a f*ggot more times in one day than that one) and threaten to tell my family everything. We ended up staying together for another few months after that because I didn’t just stand up and walk out that day.

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              6 months ago

              “I’ve been in similar situations”

              describes completely different situation

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                We literally don’t know the situation in the picture. They could be reviewing the texting scene for their upcomming movie for all we know.

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                  You’re right that’s possible but that’s definitely not what either of their body languages imply

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                Different how? Am I missing some context that you all have? The only thing that I’m getting out of this picture is two people who should just walk away from each other. Obviously I’m not saying my situation and this one are a 1:1 comparison, but no, nothing good is happening here. The guy should walk away and think about what went wrong and the girl should’ve saved the $30 it took to print those out and go out for a nice dinner with some friends.

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                  You were the abused partner in an abusive relationship with the women being the perpetrator. Your scenario ended with your abuser convincing you to stay. This scenario is clearly the one where the person being cheated on is breaking it off. Just because there was cheating involved in your story and a sit down in your story does not make your experience anywhere near analogous with what is going on in the picture.

                  You don’t know him, you don’t know her. For all you know if she did what you said and just broke it off she’d get a torrent of “babe come back I’ll never do it again it was only one time babe please ur my love” messages for months. Your scenario ended with the abuser convincing you to stay. This is clearly the one being cheated on breaking it off

                  You are projecting a very unlikely scenario due to your own experiences. The most likely scenario here is that she caught him cheating and didn’t want to leave him room to deny so she printed the proof for when she confronted him.

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              So you don’t see how the situation you’ve described is not at all similar in any way to the hypothetical scenario we’re all discussing here of a cheater being confronted with evidence of their infidelity?

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                Not really tbh. I’m seeing two people who are obviously unhappy with each other and whose best action is to walk away from each other entirely. There’s nothing productive being done in this picture, from what I can tell, and everyone’s hypothetical story they’re applying to the picture is based on conjecture; I just threw in my own past experiences.

                • Rolando@lemmy.world
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                  You’re getting a lot of undeserved scorn, fam. I think it’s fair for you to say that based on your experience, walking away can be the right answer. In fact, if anyone finds themselves in a situation that brings back past trauma, or they don’t feel safe, or they don’t feel in control of their emotions, it’s perfectly reasonable to walk away.

                  I think people are disparaging you because it sounds like you’re saying the guy should just cheat, and if he’s caught he should just walk away without remorse. I don’t think that’s what you mean, but people might legitimately interpret it that way.

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                  I want to tell you something - I get it.

                  I had a woman professor manipulate me. Long story short: She told me to meet her at a hotel and we were going to fuck, and if I didn’t then that is my grade. She told me she deserves a little fun. This happened several times before graduation, and she did shit like this where she would tell me what my texts and emails really meant. It was just massive gaslighting.

                  The people shitting on you are the ones that don’t understand being a garbage human being in a relationship is not sex dependent. Females can be equally horrific as males.

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          Shows how little you respect women that you’ll not only cheat on them, but also not face the consequences when you get caught. Very fucked up.

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      It’s because she’s angry and upset and wants to hurt him back, and this is the way she can do that. She wants to let him know how much of a piece of shit he really is, in front of people, so he can’t hide from it anymore. It hurts her, but it hurts him more.

      Maybe she can make him feel a twinge of guilt or regret over what he’s done. Maybe. If not, at least she gets cake.

      But for real, she’s upset and wants to hurt him back, and make sure he knows he’s not a good person, because he probably gaslit her and has been denying it for a while.

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          You’re not wrong, but that’s also not how people think in that situation.

          The whole reason he cheated on her is because he is comfortable with her and likes being with her, he just also felt like he could get away with getting something on the side for nothing.

          I’ve been on both sides of this, and from his side, you’re feeling guilty, exposed, and like a piece of shit. You sit there and take your licks because you think you owe it to the person you cheated on. And in some ways, you do, and more.

          The human brain isn’t rational when it comes to this stuff. He’s probably wanting to save/fix things and willing to sit through and endure punishment to keep the thing he’s afraid he’s about to lose forever. The thing that was good, except for this one aspect of it he got from someone else…

          At least that’s what’s going through his head.

          The truth is cheating is never excusable, always break up or end things first. Again, on both sides of this, it’s a shitty, shitty thing to do and there’s no excuse that is worth hurting the other person like this.

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      People cling to hope for a last minute save. Not just with this type of thing, but any time failure/death is probably inevitable

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    Why use A3 size paper though? And what part of the messenger that she is holding up? Looks like a friend suggestion list from FB and we all know how random they are!

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      List of contacts and then there’s the conversations she’s holding.
      Guy was probably unfaithful, but why would she want to do that?
      You didn’t miss much

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      Right looks like instagram DM in dark mode, and left looks like a list of accounts he doesn’t follow (looks like they are a Blue rectangle with the text ‘Follow’ inside)

      potato.jpg idk I’m speculating.

      Maybe he thought he could hide it if he didn’t follow the accounts and only stuck to DM’s lol

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        That’s probably his following list being viewed by someone other than him. If he’s got it on public or friends-only, it can be viewed by other people, but there would still be blue follow buttons, since the person viewing the list isn’t following them.