This is all good advice, but even if you don’t follow it at least part of the issue isn’t that you’re alone, but what you’re doing while you’re alone…
Like. Years ago I decided to build a nine foot tall statue in the living room of my one bedroom apartment. It took me months, and it’s actually terrifying, but it also interests people. Like. No one responds to “I have an eight and a half foot tall statue in my living room” with “okay”.
Having hobbies isn’t just a way to meet people, it’s a way to learn new skills, grow as a person, and have something you can look back on and say “I did that”.
If you spent all your time alone building or making things you’d probably feel a lot better about the time you spent alone, and doubtlessly people would pick up on that
And before you say, “but hobbies are expensive,” I bet there are a lot of things you’re interested in that are cheaper than alcohol. You just need to find those things and start them.
Yeah. I was broke af when I made my statue. It’s mostly… I guess technically mortar. Cement and sand and burlap and chicken wire. Cement is not expensive.
And the best thing about hobbies is you can be creative. You can go dumpster diving to get “found materials” to make a statue, or go to the thrift store, or maybe the local wrecking yard. There are a ton of options for cheap stuff that can be attached together to make something interesting.
I’ve found some really, really weird art besides the dumpster behind my building, and the steady stream of old electronics has really helped in learning how to solder.
You don’t even need to open up a dumpster honestly.
This is all good advice, but even if you don’t follow it at least part of the issue isn’t that you’re alone, but what you’re doing while you’re alone…
Like. Years ago I decided to build a nine foot tall statue in the living room of my one bedroom apartment. It took me months, and it’s actually terrifying, but it also interests people. Like. No one responds to “I have an eight and a half foot tall statue in my living room” with “okay”.
Having hobbies isn’t just a way to meet people, it’s a way to learn new skills, grow as a person, and have something you can look back on and say “I did that”.
If you spent all your time alone building or making things you’d probably feel a lot better about the time you spent alone, and doubtlessly people would pick up on that
And before you say, “but hobbies are expensive,” I bet there are a lot of things you’re interested in that are cheaper than alcohol. You just need to find those things and start them.
Yeah. I was broke af when I made my statue. It’s mostly… I guess technically mortar. Cement and sand and burlap and chicken wire. Cement is not expensive.
And the best thing about hobbies is you can be creative. You can go dumpster diving to get “found materials” to make a statue, or go to the thrift store, or maybe the local wrecking yard. There are a ton of options for cheap stuff that can be attached together to make something interesting.
I’ve found some really, really weird art besides the dumpster behind my building, and the steady stream of old electronics has really helped in learning how to solder.
You don’t even need to open up a dumpster honestly.