I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. I’ve been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. It’s a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. We’re all genuinely happy and satisfied. I’m kind of casually looking for a boyfriend of my own.

But I feel like I only hear negative stories about other poly experiences. It’s always unstable people and situations. It’s always two out of three people happy at most. Surely there are other success stories out there, and I just hear the disasters because they’re more memorable and fun to tell. Does anyone else have or know a polyamory success story?

EDIT: This blew up a little while I was asleep. I promise I’m at least reading every comment.

EDIT 2.0: ngl I did not expect the trope of polyamory to fix a struggling relationship would be so real. We did just the opposite and are both baffled. Don’t use volitility to fight the volitility.

  • KISSmyOS@lemmy.world
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    I dated a woman who was polyamorous and I was fine with it.
    When she found someone else she was also interested in, she asked me if that was an issue, but I was still fine with it.
    The other guy wasn’t fine with it.
    She chose to stay with him and dumped me.

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      1 year ago

      That sounds like someone who was exploring, and I offer my sympathy / empathy.

      Poly is a choice. Handling disagreement/drama is a choice. Hell, which issues I choose to lose my mind over is a choice.

      My model is disclosure and honesty, unfortunately, not everyone behaves that way / is sincere.

      I sincerely hope that you’ve found the right types of connections for you and yours.