• LustyArgonian@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    You’re always supposed to hate or be embarrassed by the old you; that means you learned. It means growth. It’s a good thing.

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      18 hours ago

      Take it from an old man, at a certain point you will grow beyond having to feel “embarassed” by your former self, because your ego won’t be tied to it.

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        48 minutes ago

        Old man here as well. I follow the doctrine of non-repudiation: I did a lot of stupid things when I was young. But I own them and don’t hate my former self for doing them. Mind you, I didn’t hurt anyone (except emotionally, and not intentionally) and wasn’t a criminal. If that were different, maybe I’d have to process it differently.

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          9 minutes ago

          Probably not that much different tbh.

          I think you can understand something without embracing it or condoning it. I did a few bad things, it’s understandable that kids with that age and upbringing will, as long as you own what you did, put right what you can and atone for the rest, there’s no need to hate yourself.